WHY WON'T HE POST ME

My boyfriend will not post me on social media and it irritates me. To be fair, he doesn’t post a lot in general. But even when I tag him in things he won’t share them. I feel like I already know the answer to this but could there be a reason why he won’t post me other than there being an interest in other girls?

I hate to be the one to say it, but if you already feel like you know the answer… you probably do. That nagging feeling in your gut is not just insecurity - that’s intuition, and it rarely lies. 

To be fair, some people genuinely just aren’t into social media, and if he never posts anything, then sure, maybe that’s just his vibe. But if he does post things - I mean literally anything - his hobbies, his friends, his meals, his car, whatever - but somehow you never make the cut? That’s suspicious.

Let’s be real, posting your partner online isn’t a necessity. There are plenty of old married couples that don’t have a trace of each other on their Facebook pages. But realistically, it is a modern-day way of acknowledging your person. If he’s out here keeping his digital footprint squeaky clean of you, you have to ask why. Is it privacy? Maybe. But is it secrecy? That’s the real question. 

When a guy refuses to acknowledge you online, it often means he’s trying to keep certain doors open. Now that could be for other girls, keeping a certain image or aesthetic, or just the ego boost of looking available so he can turn people away. Whichever reason it is, you are not being shown off and its bothering you. You shouldn’t feel needy or crazy for wanting to be celebrated by your partner. You deserve to be with someone who’s proud to claim you, both online and in real life. So instead of wondering why he won’t post you, ask yourself why you’re settling for a guy who makes you feel hidden. 

A man who loves you out loud will never have you questioning if he’s keeping you in the shadows for nefarious reasons. You deserve to be loved in private of course, but it’s not shallow to want to be loved publicly, too. I hope you find the courage to confront him about this and express why this is a big deal to you and how it is making you feel. And I hope you get to the bottom of why he has been censoring his socials of you. No matter how it works out, remember what you deserve and that you are not asking for too much if it means this much to you. Wishing you the best! xo