TOO PICKY?

My friends tell me I’m too picky. I've been hurt before and I have high standards because I really don’t want to settle. However I haven’t had the best luck with guys lately. Could they be right?

High standards aren’t a flaw; they’re a filter. “Picky” is what people call someone who refuses to waste their time. You’re not asking for a unicorn; you’re asking for a man who meets your needs and treats you right, which is really just the bare minimum. If the guys you’ve been meeting lately aren’t cutting it, that doesn’t mean that you need to lower your standards, it just means you haven’t found the right man who meets them. 

People settle because they get tired. Tired of waiting, tired of being single, tired of swiping through the same lineup. They start thinking, Maybe I’m asking for too much. Maybe love is just accepting flaws and making it work. Maybe I don’t want to be alone anymore. And before they know it, they’re convincing themselves that bare-minimum effort is romantic and that “at least he’s nice” is enough to build a life on.

But here’s the truth: settling is just slow heartbreak. It’s signing up for frustration, resentment, and a general inauthentic lifestyle. It’s choosing temporary comfort over long-term happiness. The second you start lowering your standards just to have someone, you’re telling yourself that you don’t deserve the kind of love you actually want. You’re not desperate, you’re not weak, and you sure as hell don’t need a relationship just to say you have one. You’ve already been hurt before and you know what it feels like to regret a relationship. Why willingly walk into another one that isn’t right from the start? The last thing you need is to ignore those lessons just because your friends think you should give different guys a chance.

So, could your friends be right? Only if they think you should settle for mediocrity. The right person will meet your standards. He exists, I promise. And he will be worth the wait. Until then? Focus on yourself, your happiness, and your peace. Because trust me, being alone and thriving is a million times better than being with the wrong man and wondering “what if”. I’m a firm believer in keeping your standards high and your energy reserved for someone worthy. The right one will meet you there… no settling required. Xo