THE TRUTH ABOUT DISTANCE

My boyfriend just got a great job offer in another city a few hours away. I have to stay where we are currently because of my job. Is there any way distance can work? So many people have negative things to say but I know there are success stories too.

Long distance relationships can absolutely work,  but only if you’re both built for it. It’s not for the weak, the insecure, or the half-assed types. It takes real commitment, trust, and effort - not just hope. If he’s the kind of guy who needs constant attention and validation from whoever’s closest, or if you’re the type to spiral when a text goes unanswered for a few hours, then yeah, distance might chew you up and spit you out. But if you both have full trust, solid communication, and an actual game plan? Then it’s not just possible, it can make your relationship even stronger.

Trust is everything in a long distance situation. If you’re constantly side-eyeing his social media, wondering who he’s with, or feeling like you need to “check up” on him, then you’re going to drive yourself insane. But if you know without a doubt that he respects you, prioritizes you, and isn’t out here acting single just because you’re not physically there, then you have something solid to work with. The couples who make it through distance don’t do it by overthinking and stressing every second—they do it by believing in each other and showing up for the relationship, even from miles away. The other important detail is if your actual lifestyles are compatible. If you are both working, bettering yourselves, hanging with friends on the weekend etc. then it will be easier to keep in touch and feel connected. If one of you is living a wholesome lifestyle and the other is out late every night making poor decisions to numb the loneliness - that is going to get really old and really messy, really fast. Being on the same page and having similar goals is the key to making it work. 

Here are some practical things to help get things on the right foot. You need to schedule regular FaceTime dates and planned visits to actually make the effort to stay connected in each other’s lives. You both need to feel included, not like you’re just living separate existences and checking in sometimes. The goal isn’t just to survive the distance, it’s to still feel just as together despite it. Honestly, if this relationship is meant to last, then a few hours apart won’t break it. If it does, then it wasn’t built to last anyway.

Distance seems big and scary, but in reality it is all what you make of it. If you both put in equal effort and have equal trust in each other and faith in your future together - everything is going to work out fine. Good luck!! Xo