LOST ENGAGEMENT RING

How would you tell your fiance you lost his biggest investment?

I need to figure out how to tell my fiancé that I lost my ring at my bachelorette. I took it off to go to bed after a few too many drinks one night and can not find it. We stayed in a rental house and I contacted the owners they are going to look everywhere and check the sink drains and stuff. I’m so afraid he’s going to be angry I feel so bad! 

Congratulations on your engagement! I hope you had an amazing time away at your bachelorette party, although I’m sure this little hiccup has your brain busy. I know this is going to sound extremely passive but try to remember that a ring is just a thing at the end of the day and it is the relationship underneath that matters. 

As far as finding the ring goes, if you retraced your steps and looked everywhere and contacted the owners of the rental home, there is not much else you can do other than pray it turns up. Have your girls tear their luggage apart when they get home just to make sure no one put it in a purse or a pocket for you. Take this as an opportunity to invest in some jewelry travel cases, ring holders, cute little dishes by your sinks etc. Also, check to see if the ring is insured and take steps to start that reporting process.

The only way to approach the conversation with your fiance is to be totally upfront and honest, in my opinion. “Honey, I’m so sorry, but I took my ring off to go to bed and it got misplaced I cant find it. The homeowners are going to look for it, the girls and I searched everywhere. I’m so sorry please forgive me it was a total accident.” You can expect that he is going to be upset and frustrated, anyone would be. Being straight about it and showing genuine emotion and remorse will help though. Any good man will be disappointed, but forgiving. Sometimes these situations really test the depth and strength of a relationship so who’s to say you will not end up stronger in the end!

Ultimately, if a piece of lost or stolen property is going to make or break a relationship, the relationship may have been a bit rocky to begin with. Of course the ring is symbol of your love and commitment and of course it is a devastating loss of an extremely sentimental piece of jewelry. Try to focus on the bright side of things as much as you can and even laugh if you are able. A lost ring does not mean a lost marriage. Stay calm and bring yourself down to earth. Be honest, be resourceful, be understanding, and do your best to move forward respectfully and compassionately. 

Wishing you well with the conversation in front of you. Even though its intimidating, dodging the truth will only make things worse. No need to add an element of suspicion to an already touchy subject. I really believe these things always turn up, or work out better than you imagine. Pray a few prayers and stay hopeful! Definitely do not let this ruin wedding excitement. Update us on how the confrontation goes and if the ring is found! xo