GIRLS GONE GHOST

How do I ghost gracefully when I’m getting red flags from a guy early on? I feel like as I’m dating I need to be able to move on quickly when I notice someone is playing games or not for me. I don’t feel like I owe a huge explanation when I barely know the guy or haven’t even met him yet. I know guys ghost all the time but are girls ghosting people too lol?

Absolutely, girl! You do not owe a full breakup speech to a guy you barely know, especially if he’s already showing signs of wasting your time. If you haven’t met yet or it’s just a few messages in, a simple fade-out is completely fair. You’re not vanishing into thin air; you’re reclaiming your time and taking your power back. You are in complete control of the people you choose to be in your life. The people you talk to are part of your “diet” in a way, so if someone doesn’t fit, it is okay to remove them. 

If you want to keep it clean, a short, polite message like “Hey, I don’t think this is a match for me, but best of luck out there!” does the job. But if he’s giving weird vibes or playing games, no response is definitely a response. You don’t need to justify, explain, or soften the blow for someone who isn’t your person. As long as you are leading with good intentions, protect your energy and move on without guilt. There are better things (and people) waiting for you.

Silence speaks volumes, babe. No response is a response because it sends the clearest message of all: not only am I not interested, but I’m not engaging. If someone can’t pick up on that, that’s their problem, not yours. You don’t owe every random guy a carefully crafted rejection. If he was texting but not making real effort, being inconsistent, or giving you a bad gut feeling, it is completely in your right to pull away. People who respect your time won’t need closure from someone they barely know. Ghosting isn’t rude when the connection was barely there, it’s just kind of cutting the dead weight and keeping it moving. 

At the end of the day, you’re not being mean you’re just protecting your peace. Dating is about finding what works for you, not hand-holding every person through the whole process or giving them play-by-play instructions on how to do so. Trust your gut, keep your standards high, and don’t waste a second feeling bad about doing what’s best for you. You got this, girl! The right guy won’t need to be ghosted or rejected. He’ll show up, be consistent, and make you want to reply and engage. Until then, keep your energy on yourself where it belongs. Happy dating! xo