AWKWARD CONFRONTATION

My friend is on a health kick and she stopped using deodorant. I’m all for detoxing your life and trying new things but she STINKS. I’m so bad at confronting people about stuff like this. How do I tell her?

Food in your teeth, hole in your pants, body odor, bad breath - things like this can be so awkward to confront! If you are a girls girl - you have to tell her. As weird as it may feel for you to confront her about it, its going to save her embarrassment in the future. 

Most important thing is to not humiliate her. Do not call her out in front of of anyone. Wait until you guys are alone and say something vague about smelling some bad B.O. Maybe even sniff yourself if you are feeling like an extra good friend that day. If being vague about it does not make her realize, you just need to come right out and say “OMG girl, it’s you”.

A true friend is going to tell her the truth, straight up. What is the alternative? Buying her natural deodorants to try as a gift? Making rude comments about someone smelling bad every time you are together? You can totally compliment her on her choice to try something new to better herself to support her and make her feel better. These conversations are uncomfortable but sometimes you just have to blurt it out and say it. Save your friend from being the stinky girl before she walks around work like that and gets a reputation as the smelly one in the office. Or worse! What if she goes out on a date like that? 

Tell her you love her and you are just looking out for her. Seriously, I promise she will not be angry. Nose blindness is a real thing and she may not eve realize she is walking around like that. If she gets a little defensive, you can apologize for hurting her feelings, but ultimately she will see you meant well.

I always say, if you go in with good intentions, you really can’t lose. Choose a time and place that doesn’t totally mortify her. Be honest, be kind, remind her it’s because you care. The best way to handle this one is head on girly! Be the friend we all need when we have spinach in our teeth or a stain on our shirt. Good luck!