A NANNY CONFESSION: I SAW MY BOSS ON TINDER

I am in a bad situation and I don’t know what to do. For some context, I am a nanny for two toddlers who have young parents. The other day I was helping my friend scroll through her Tinder and I saw the dad on there. It was pictures of him but had a fake name. I have no idea what to do with this information please help me

Way to start the new year of Nanny After Hours off with a bang…

So first of all, as much as I want to rip into this man and roast him on open flames, there is a chance this is someone using his pictures with a different name as a catfish. Small chance, but a chance nonetheless. I have no idea how attractive, successful, or otherwise desirable this man is, so its hard for me to judge.

Lets assume this is him doing something nefarious for arguments sake. I 100% believe you should tell his wife. I hope you have some sort of screenshot or recording to give to her this way you can just present her with the information and walk away from it. Once you tell her, it is completely off your chest. The responsibility no longer belongs to you. Give it to her in privacy and ask explicitly to be left out of it. Offer the information and some comfort and let it go. Hopefully your boundaries will be respected and although it was hard to show her the truth, you approached the situation with honesty and the intentions to do what is best for her and her children.

Unless you have been a nanny, you really do not understand how close you become with the people you work for. Raising children together is raw and real. You see each other happy, mad, stressed, sick, excited - all of your best and all of your worst and every mood in between. These people become your family. I’m sure its devastating to know this information, especially because you will be the one watching the aftermath the closest. Keep in mind what is best for those children. Healthy, happy kids come from healthy, happy parents. There is no way that marriage is completely happy if there is a cheating situation.

In the end, the most important thing is to approach all of this with the well-being of the entire family in mind. It is definitely not an easy position to be in, but you have to trust that you are being a loyal friend to this woman, even if it feels extremely uncomfortable.

Good luck with your conversation with her, and good luck protecting the people you care for so deeply as they navigate all of this. And most of all - f*ck that guy. May he get every single thing he deserves.